Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want you?
Why would you insist you're getting something out of a relationship where you're getting nothing more than crumbs?
Why would you put yourself through this?
They don't understand. They can’t understand.
Because they’re not in it. You are. And when you're in it, there's nothing else to understand.
Except that you want him.
Except that you need him.
Except that you can't imagine your life without him.
When I consider what you most need to hear from me today, to bring you that one step closer to having that love in your life you're so longing for, I think of where you are.
Some of you have been here long enough to know what you need. You've accepted the reality that you're not going to change him, nor is this your role to play.
But for so many others of you, you're not there yet. You're not done with him.
And more than anything else, you don't want him to be done with you.
You want one more thing to try. One more shred of hope to hang onto. One more piece of the puzzle to fit.
Everything else I say is lost on you.
It's where you are right now that I'm speaking to. Save all the rest. Everything else will start making sense when you get there.
But right now, this is where you are.
Don’t look ahead. Don’t try to understand why this is happening to you right now. Don’t beat yourself up because you can’t see the gift in what you’re going through.
Trying to make sense out of it can’t make sense to you when you’re here, going through this, whatever your "this" might happen to be.
Instead, let’s go a different route.
Away from all the regret of what you could or should have done differently. You’ve learned that. That’s enough beating yourself up.
Come here instead to feel the love. And the knowing. And the trust in the knowledge that you’re going to get there.
One day, you’re going to decide that being with someone who can’t love you the way you deserved to be loved isn’t worth the justifications you’re making to stay.
After all, you’re here, aren’t you? This is how it begins.
Asking why. Asking what if. Asking if just maybe it could be different for you.
The answers you’re searching for are going to start coming to you when you’re ready for them.
One step. One tiny baby step at a time.
Are you here? You’re not alone! I’ve been here before. And so have so many of us on here. Tell us what you’re going through in the comments. We all hear you!
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