I hear it so often.
And I understand; I really do.
I hear you when you say "I'm not there yet." I see the tears you try to hold back. I feel your pain when you try to say you have to hold on, you have to keep waiting just a little longer because you love him too much to let go just yet.
And you know I'm the first one to say it's OK.
Wherever you are right now, it's OK. We all get there in our own time, and you'll get there in your own time. One step at a time; one new way of seeing at a time.
However long it takes you, it's OK. You've heard me say it time and time again.
It's OK wherever you are, wherever you're at.
But looking at it another way, it's really not OK.
Because the life that you're living right now isn't the life that you deserve to live. Because the pain that you're feeling right now isn't the kind of pain any one deserves to go through.
Because the amount of hurting you're going through right now is no way for anyone to live. Because the aching loneliness you're experiencing isn't how we are meant to experience life.
Yes, I'm the first to tell you it's OK because wherever we are is our reality and where we all begin. And who you are, and where you are is nothing to beat yourself up about or feel bad about yourself for.
But you deserve so much more than this.
You can keep waiting. You can keep going through the motions. You can keep putting one foot in front of the other until you finally get tired of living like this.
But there's a life to be lived that's just waiting for you. It's your life. It's the life you were made for, the life that you've been putting off living even as it's passing you by.
This is the life I want you to see, to discover, to embrace for yourself.
You see, when I look back at where I used to be back when I was single and living my life in what I now know was the waiting mode, I realize how much I missed out on.
When I think about what I could have done with my life, it tears me to the core. It would have affected so many areas of my life.
It's your time.
How ever long it's going to take. Whatever action it's going to require in your part. Don't wait another minute settling for so much less than you deserve. Don't struggle another moment living like you are, going through what you are when there is so much help out there for you.
You don't need to.
If it's my program that's speaking to you, then great - I'm here for you.
If it's someone else's that's helping you, that's great, too. If it's one-on-one counseling sessions with someone you're finally ready to try, that's wonderful, too.
It doesn't matter where you find your help, all that it matters is that you do!
So take that time that you were going to spend watching your usual television shows, take that money you were going to spend on that new outfit to try to catch the attention of yet another him, and take that energy that you're only using on over-thinking and rehashing what he's thinking and what you did wrong, and put it all toward the one thing that's worth more than any of these: YOU.
Because when you look back, this time is going to pass you by and be a distant memory soon enough. But it's your life, your time, your happiness.
You are worth so much more than anything else you might think your time, your money and your energy are worth.
Go get that help you need to get past your past.
Go get that help you need to find what you're really looking for.
Go get that help so you can start seeing who you really are and what you really deserve.
Go get that help so you can see what you can't see now, so you can do what you don't believe you can do now, so you can become what you can't imagine yourself getting to right now.
You can and you will. But only if you choose to.
So choose to.