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Dying Inside

March 11, 2013 19 Comments
I love him still so much and I'm so depressed and I don't know what to do. Please for the sake of God help me, I am dying inside. A beautiful middle-aged woman is crying with her face in her hand.

Friends, we have one of our beautiful sisters who is literally begging for our help! You can read her question below (edited for readability), along with my personal response, but she is also asking for advice from our community. Please help her by giving her any advice that you can offer in the comments. Her [...]

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How Do I Find The Strength To Walk Away

March 8, 2013 18 Comments
When we settle for someone treating us like this, that we miss out on someone who would never treat us this way. A beautiful, tender woman looks out the window trying to find the strength to walk away.

Here's a letter sent in by one of our tender readers who is desperately trying to find the strength to walk away from an all too common situation that she knows is unhealthy (the letter has been edited and name changed for anonymity): Dear Jane, I have been dating a man for the past few years. [...]

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A New Perspective on Valentine's Day

February 13, 2013 6 Comments
The reality is that many of those seemingly wonderful relationships that for appearances sake seem to hold everything we long for are not anything we would really want. A valentine's day heart shaped candle burns against a white background.

It’s the day I remember all too well. As the entourage of flower and hearts and candy deliveries made their way into the office, the most I could usually hope for was my own Valentine’s bouquet sent from my well-meaning Mom (thanks Mom!). Or it was a beautiful show of flowers from someone I was [...]

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It's Time to Raise the Bar!

February 11, 2013 18 Comments
We just keep lowering the bar on what we'll settle for, and in the process we teach him how little we will require from him if he'll only choose us. A beautiful woman is lifting a barbel on her shoulders.

Don't ever doubt that you teach him how to treat you. That each of us teaches each and every man out there how to treat us and every other woman who comes after us. When you're wondering how he can ask for your number and then never call. When you're wondering how he can text you at [...]

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Is Your Past Getting in the Way of Your Future?

February 3, 2013 8 Comments
We think we need to be perfect, or at least somewhere close. We have so little grace for ourselves, for what we’ve been through, where we’ve come from. A beautiful woman is looking out from behind a chain link fence, symbolic of her own beliefs that are keeping her from having the relationship she wants.

I received an email the other day that really got to me. It was from a reader who felt that her past behavior with men had precluded her from having a future with a good man. My heart went out to her. It brought back to me all those times I, too, questioned my own [...]

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It's Time to Let Go of the Fairytale

January 23, 2013 8 Comments
She always won her man, and he always pursued her regardless of what obstacles came up, and they always eventually married and lived happily ever after. A beautiful woman dressed as a princess is running toward the fairytale castle.

You remember the story well. Yet another beautiful commoner captured the heart of the prince, and the two rode off into the sunset to live happily ever after. It didn't matter how many times you heard that story, how many different versions of it you read; the outcome was always the same. She always won [...]

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That First Step

January 5, 2013 6 Comments
You don't need to settle like this. You do have worth. You don't have to prove your worthiness to receive love. It's not in everyone else except you; it's all there, in you! A beautiful woman is taking that first adventurous step across the water into the unknown.

You know you don't want to settle anymore. You know it's time to start focusing on what you really want, and deserve, and to start making this about you and not about any him. But even as you know all this, even as you know in your head so clearly what you need to do, [...]

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A Christmas Wish

December 25, 2012 6 Comments
My wish for you this year is the same wish I always have, which is that you will realize just how much worth you really do have, how much you deserve and that you will know that what you attract into your life is all about how much you really feel this about yourself

It's Christmas. And it's been awhile since you've heard from me. I've been down with the worst flu I think I've ever had, and we've traveled 14 hours on the road to celebrate Christmas with extended family, which is why I haven't posted in while. But although my energies have been focused elsewhere for the [...]

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The Most Special Gift of All

December 17, 2012 8 Comments
We can't control who loves us, and all too often, we find ourselves with a deep longing to be loved by someone who isn't capable of giving us the love we are looking for from them. A beautiful woman opens a magical gift box.

I could go on and on. And sometimes I do. Because this one is just that important. It's not about the gifts we give everyone else. It's not about the time we spend looking for that perfect gift for someone else. It's not about anything tangible. It's about you and what you deserve more than [...]

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You Are That Strong!

December 5, 2012 Leave a Comment
With that same resolve, with that same kind of confidence. You really do have that same kind of confidence, that same kind of right to stand up for yourself and let him know what you will and will not take. A woman is showing her confidence holding out her fist and smiling.

I was waiting at the checkout counter today when a title on one of the CD's caught my eye. It was Taylor Swift's We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together, and I noticed it was advertised as having been a number one single. I hadn't heard the song before, so I downloaded it when I [...]

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