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He Was Never Really There

April 22, 2013 9 Comments
We forget just how miserable we were far too much of the time. We forget how many of our own needs weren't being met. We forget all the waiting. We forget all the uncertainty. We forget all the times we felt like anything would have been better than what we were living. A beautiful woman is sad thinking about her recently ended relationship.

It's always hard to let go of a dream. The dream of all the potential the relationship showed, the dream of all that could have been. We tend to have such a selective memory when we finally let him go or he lets us go. Either way, it's the same. We remember all the wonderful [...]

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What To Do When You're Not Getting The Commitment You Want

February 24, 2013 12 Comments
if it's a commitment you're looking for, no matter how amazing he seems, no matter how attractive he is, no matter how much he seems like everything you've been looking for in a man, the smartest thing you can do is hold onto your you and refuse to commit to him any more than he's committing to you. A beautiful woman sitting on the edge of the couch contemplates the lack of commitment from her boyfriend casually reading a book.

It's what you want. The whole thing. The real deal. A fully committed relationship with him. And yet here you are again, with another man who seems to be battling commitment phobia, settling for whatever he'll give because you've gone there once again. It might have started out innocently enough, with him acting and talking [...]

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It's Time to Raise the Bar!

February 11, 2013 18 Comments
We just keep lowering the bar on what we'll settle for, and in the process we teach him how little we will require from him if he'll only choose us. A beautiful woman is lifting a barbel on her shoulders.

Don't ever doubt that you teach him how to treat you. That each of us teaches each and every man out there how to treat us and every other woman who comes after us. When you're wondering how he can ask for your number and then never call. When you're wondering how he can text you at [...]

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How to Attract the Guy You Really Deserve and Avoid The Ones You Don't

January 30, 2013 13 Comments
Why would you be attracted to someone who doesn't treat you well if you were confident in who you are and what you have to offer someone? A happy couple is having fun in a winter scene.

You've heard it said time and time again. You deserve so much more than this! You've even said it yourself more times than you care to remember. But every time you say it, every time you decide that enough is enough and this time you are finally going to hold out for what you truly [...]

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Stop Being So Hard on Yourself!

May 8, 2012 4 Comments
Don't be so hard on yourself.

There’s one thing we women do better than anything else - we beat ourselves up. It doesn’t matter how far we’ve come or what we’ve learned along the way, no one else is harder on us than we are. We know all too well exactlywhat we should have done, could have done, would have done [...]

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Are You Too Understanding?

February 29, 2012 6 Comments
Girl Debating if she should accept guys excuse

I was thinking about Friday’s post Why Won’t He Commit? 7 Things You Can Do to Move Things Along, and I realized that there’s a common theme I’m seeing among those of us who hang around far too long, waiting for a guy to come around.  You know, the one we’re convinced could be the [...]

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