Why a Friends with Benefits Relationship Never Works

We forget that we can't separate our bodies from our hearts and souls like we believe we can. A beautiful woman is drinking beer with a guy in a friends with benefits relationship.

He's everything you've been looking for in a man except for one important thing; he's not looking for a commitment. In fact, he's upfront and honest enough with you to let you know this right from the start. All he's looking for is a friend with benefits relationship. And so, like so many of us [...]

How Do I Find The Strength To Walk Away

When we settle for someone treating us like this, that we miss out on someone who would never treat us this way. A beautiful, tender woman looks out the window trying to find the strength to walk away.

Here's a letter sent in by one of our tender readers who is desperately trying to find the strength to walk away from an all too common situation that she knows is unhealthy (the letter has been edited and name changed for anonymity): Dear Jane, I have been dating a man for the past few years. [...]

A New Perspective on Valentine's Day

The reality is that many of those seemingly wonderful relationships that for appearances sake seem to hold everything we long for are not anything we would really want. A valentine's day heart shaped candle burns against a white background.

It’s the day I remember all too well. As the entourage of flower and hearts and candy deliveries made their way into the office, the most I could usually hope for was my own Valentine’s bouquet sent from my well-meaning Mom (thanks Mom!). Or it was a beautiful show of flowers from someone I was [...]

It's Time to Raise the Bar!

We just keep lowering the bar on what we'll settle for, and in the process we teach him how little we will require from him if he'll only choose us. A beautiful woman is lifting a barbel on her shoulders.

Don't ever doubt that you teach him how to treat you. That each of us teaches each and every man out there how to treat us and every other woman who comes after us. When you're wondering how he can ask for your number and then never call. When you're wondering how he can text you at [...]

That First Step

You don't need to settle like this. You do have worth. You don't have to prove your worthiness to receive love. It's not in everyone else except you; it's all there, in you! A beautiful woman is taking that first adventurous step across the water into the unknown.

You know you don't want to settle anymore. You know it's time to start focusing on what you really want, and deserve, and to start making this about you and not about any him. But even as you know all this, even as you know in your head so clearly what you need to do, [...]

The Most Special Gift of All

We can't control who loves us, and all too often, we find ourselves with a deep longing to be loved by someone who isn't capable of giving us the love we are looking for from them. A beautiful woman opens a magical gift box.

I could go on and on. And sometimes I do. Because this one is just that important. It's not about the gifts we give everyone else. It's not about the time we spend looking for that perfect gift for someone else. It's not about anything tangible. It's about you and what you deserve more than [...]

You Are That Strong!

With that same resolve, with that same kind of confidence. You really do have that same kind of confidence, that same kind of right to stand up for yourself and let him know what you will and will not take. A woman is showing her confidence holding out her fist and smiling.

I was waiting at the checkout counter today when a title on one of the CD's caught my eye. It was Taylor Swift's We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together, and I noticed it was advertised as having been a number one single. I hadn't heard the song before, so I downloaded it when I [...]

Don't Give Yourself Away

You deserve to be loved, my beautiful friend. You deserve to have someone truly love you for yourself just because you're you. And you don't need to prove that to anyone. So don't give yourself away until you know he's the real thing, it's real love. A man and woman are dancing with the city lights in the background.

You think you've finally found what you're looking for. He seems so different from the rest. He shows all the signs of being into you and you feel like all the work you've been doing on yourself is finally paying off. He seems genuine. He acts like he cares about your feelings and he's not [...]

Your Actions Say So Much More than Your Words

You deserve nothing less than someone who calls you often and with enough notice to get together. You deserve nothing less than someone who knows what he's got in you and knows what is required of him if he wants to be in a relationship with you. A beautiful confident woman looks into the camera.

You know this scenario all too well. He's not calling you as often as you'd like; he's waiting until the last minute to make plans with you; you're feeling taken for granted. You're not sure what to do to turn things around, but you don't want to lose him; you've never felt the way you [...]

Should I Leave Him? 9 Questions to Ask Yourself

You've been living like this for far too long. You keep thinking things are going to get better, hanging on to those little things that just keep you hanging on. Until finally it becomes clear that things aren't getting better, he isn't coming around. A beautiful and thoughtful woman is questioning her relationship.

You've been living like this for far too long. You keep thinking things are going to get better, hanging on to those little things that just keep you hanging on. Until finally it becomes clear that things aren't getting better, he isn't coming around, you're still giving way more than you're getting out of this [...]