How Do I Find The Strength To Walk Away

When we settle for someone treating us like this, that we miss out on someone who would never treat us this way. A beautiful, tender woman looks out the window trying to find the strength to walk away.

Here's a letter sent in by one of our tender readers who is desperately trying to find the strength to walk away from an all too common situation that she knows is unhealthy (the letter has been edited and name changed for anonymity): Dear Jane, I have been dating a man for the past few years. [...]

It's Your Decision

As much as you want him to change, to commit to you, to do something different, the reality is that you are not going to change him and no amount of loving him is going to change him. A beautiful woman lies in bed wondering if her boyfriend will ever make a commitment to her.

What can you live with? Whatever he's doing or isn't doing; whatever you want him to do that he can't do. You're not going to change him. As much as you want him to change, to make a commitment to you, to do something different, the reality is that you are not going to change [...]

You Are That Strong!

With that same resolve, with that same kind of confidence. You really do have that same kind of confidence, that same kind of right to stand up for yourself and let him know what you will and will not take. A woman is showing her confidence holding out her fist and smiling.

I was waiting at the checkout counter today when a title on one of the CD's caught my eye. It was Taylor Swift's We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together, and I noticed it was advertised as having been a number one single. I hadn't heard the song before, so I downloaded it when I [...]

How We Get Hooked

Why do we suddenly find ourselves justifying why he’s treating us the way he does, why he has rules about how often he can spend time with us, why we’re suddenly on the begging end of the whole relationship? A beautiful woman is hooked on a guy that is not treating her well

What happens to us that we, perfectly intelligent, level headed women suddenly begin justifying to ourselves, beyond all sense of reason, why he’s treating us the way he does, why it's OK that he has rules about how often he can spend time with us, why it's understandable that he needs so much "guy time", [...]

Don't Go There

It's been awhile since it ended, and you start thinking that enough time has gone by that it might be nice to reach out and see how he's doing. A beautiful woman is looking at her phone considering calling her ex.

It's been awhile since it ended, and you start thinking that enough time has gone by that it might be nice to reach out and see how he's doing. To see how he now feels about you, about the relationship, now that some time has passed. To see if anything has changed. You didn't really [...]

He's Going to Fall For You

He's going to fall for you, and when he does, he'll be falling for the real you; your essence. A beautiful woman is being herself looking up and smiling.

Ladies, it's time to stop worrying about what you said or didn't say, what you did or didn't do, or any of those other regrets you have when you feel like things aren't going well. It doesn't matter. None of those things really matter. They are of no significance in the realm where the kind [...]

Is He Worth It?

Is he really worth it? A beautiful woman is crying herself to sleep over her boyfriend wondering to herself if he's really worth it.

I heard you crying yourself to sleep last night, you still haven't heard from him, but you're sure he’ll come around. Is he worth it? I heard you talking on the phone yesterday, saying he didn't come home last night, but you tell yourself he probably just had to work late again and stayed downtown [...]

Boundaries

Set and respect your boundaries in a relationship. Beautiful woman standing by her personal boundaries by setting boundaries in relationships.

Here's what you need to know to get him to respect your boundaries.  Looking back, I realize that one of the things that probably most contributed to my rocky relationship roller coaster rides was the whole thing about boundaries, or, more accurately, the lack thereof. Although there are many different definitions and ideas out there [...]

Are You Looking for Someone to Complete You?

Are you looking for someone to complete you?

While those three words, "You Complete Me," are beautifully romantic, here's why actually feeling that way is just not healthy. This is the fifth post in our series 8 Signs You Aren't Ready for a Relationship. Ever since the mid 90's when the box office hit romantic comedy Jerry Maguire coined the phrase "You complete me," [...]

It’s Time to Call Off the Search

A woman who has called off the search for Mr. Right

If you feel like you’ve been working so hard to meet the right guy, you’ve tried everything from night clubs to dating clubs to speed dating, well I’ve got some good news for you: It’s time for a break. It’s time to realize that you don’t need a man to define your life!  You don’t [...]