Why You Need to Stop Trying So Hard

Every thing you do or say isn’t being recorded, judged, analyzed to determine just how worthy you are to receive the grand prize of true love. A beautiful woman writes the word relax on a transparent board in marker while teaching.

This is NOT how it's supposed to feel. It’s not supposed to be this hard. Really, it’s not. All the things you’re doing to increase your chances of finding him - The One, Mr. Right. All the over thinking. The second-guessing. The desperate calls to your best girlfriends, maybe even your mother. Should I or shouldn’t I? Do [...]

Help! My Biological Clock is Ticking Away!

A woman who is concerned that her biological clock is ticking away and she hasn't yet found her Mr. Right is holding a biological clock near her belly.

Here's a letter from one of our beautiful readers, Mady, who is concerned that her biological clock is ticking away and she hasn't yet found her Mr. Right.  Dear Jane, First of all, thank you for writing such encouraging thoughts on your very positive website. You’re helping a lot of people, something I strive to [...]

I'm Confident and Adventurous – Why Can't I Find Love?

How does a woman in my position keep from feeling there will actually be no one out there for her? A beautiful confident woman leans against a tree in a park.

One of our confident, beautiful readers, Ashley, wrote in asking for some advice on what she can do to find love. Since this is a question so many of us can relate to, I wanted to share her question and my response. Hi Jane, Thank you for offering to answer questions! I am a confident woman [...]

It's Time to Let Go of the Fairytale

She always won her man, and he always pursued her regardless of what obstacles came up, and they always eventually married and lived happily ever after. A beautiful woman dressed as a princess is running toward the fairytale castle.

You remember the story well. Yet another beautiful commoner captured the heart of the prince, and the two rode off into the sunset to live happily ever after. It didn't matter how many times you heard that story, how many different versions of it you read; the outcome was always the same. She always won [...]

Having Trouble Getting Over a Break Up? Why It's Time to Finally Move On

Getting over a recent (or worse, a not so recent) break up can be one of the most difficult things in life to do, and for good reason. It makes sense – your life was intertwined with this person and you opened and shared your delicate heart with him. A beautiful sad woman is having trouble getting over a breakup, holding her knees with her arms.

You knew it would be hard getting over him, but you never realized just how hard this was going to be. Whether he ended it, or you, the reality is you didn't want it to end. All you ever wanted was it to work out, but in the end, you realized it would take more [...]

The Essence of You

The essence of you is worth more than anything on the surface. Beautiful woman smelling the garden flowers.

The more single women I work with the more I’m convinced that beauty, intelligence, success, wealth, and attractiveness do not correlate with an increased ability to attract the right Mr. Right.  For every woman who may seem to have it all (or at least have something that we think we're missing that we need to attract [...]

Is Finding Mr. Right Like Winning the Lottery?

Is finding Mr. Right like winning the lottery? You have to open your heart.

If finding your Mr. Right seems about as likely as buying the winning ticket, think again. I remember having many conversations with my girlfriends about what we thought was the statistical likelihood of finding our very own Mr. Right. You see, like many of us, back then I believed there was only one single Mr. [...]

Improve Your Dating by Changing One Thing

Stop taking your dating life so seriously.

If you can avoid this one huge mistake, your dating life will improve dramatically. I made this mistake throughout most of my dating life, as did most of my friends – in fact I think nearly all of us have. You see, I looked at dating as serving one purpose, and one purpose only: To [...]

3 Ways to Know He's a Keeper

Three ways to know he's a keeper.

All too often we overlook the three most important essentials of a real relationship. Looking back, it seems so obvious to me.  Of all the qualities I was looking for in a guy, of all my “must haves” on my quest for finding Mr. Right, I didn’t pay nearly enough attention to the three things that [...]

Are You a Rescuer?

Remember, he's your boyfriend, not your patient.

You may be falling in love with the guy you want him to be instead of the guy he really is. This is the third post in our series 8 Signs You Aren’t Ready for a Relationship. I’m going to spend the next week or two delving into each of these more deeply, one by [...]