I Can't Make You Love Me

Of course you thought you could make someone love you. Haven't we all been there? You, too, believed, in spite of what everyone told you, that you could actually change his heart. A beautiful woman looks out at the snow knowing it's finally over.

You know exactly what I'm talking about here. Because you've been down this path far too many times before. Of course you thought you could make someone love you. Haven't we all been there? You, too, believed, in spite of what everyone told you, that you could actually change his heart. And no matter how [...]

How To Know You're Getting Closer To A Real Relationship

You start to learn that it really does matter that you know yourself well enough to know who it is you're really looking for. Your list changes to reflect the you you're discovering and learning to embrace in love. A man and woman are holding hands near the ocean.

Don't doubt yourself on this journey. It doesn't matter where you've come from or what you've been through. It doesn't matter how many times you feel you've repeated the same mistakes or how many times you've attracted the same type of guy. None of that matters. What matters is how each experience brings you closer [...]

Don't Fall in Love With His Potential

Don't fall in love with his potential. A beautiful woman sits in the grass and looks out across the valley at a beautiful sunset.

"I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than [...]

This Is All For You

This is all for you. A beautiful lone flower sits in a garden.

I have been receiving such special emails from so many of you. Some of you are just saying hello and letting me know you're out there enjoying my blog posts, others of you writing for some advice and support for what you're going through, and still others with such kind words that you bring me [...]

Changes

Beautiful woman going through a big change in her life. She is packing and moving boxes.

We’re in the middle of moving across the country. And it’s a whole different kind of move when you’re moving a family, two dogs, a lizard, and fish. There are more people and things to consider, with the heart of it being that I have the responsibility of making it as easy a transition as [...]

It's Time to Be Selfish

It's time to be selfish - Road sign pointing in different directions to "I want", "You want" "We want", and "They want".

I know; we've all been brought up to be very good little girls. And we've become very well-behaved women. We learned well that we were to put others needs before our own, and not be selfish. And we've done just that, haven't we. We're oh so good at meeting everyone's needs except our own. We know [...]

Beautiful Goodbye

A beautiful woman is crying after her breakup, thinking of the song A Beautiful Goodbye, after having her heart broken.

I recently went searching for a song that I couldn't quite remember but couldn’t get out of my head, and I finally found it… A Beautiful Goodbye, by Amanda Marshall. She's a Canadian singer from a decade or so ago whose passion for life and love came through over and over again in her songs. It got [...]

Don’t Ever Let Your Heart Get Hardened

Don't let your heart get hardened - image of heart wrapped in steel

Have you ever had a song, one that you haven’t heard in years, just start playing in your head?  It happened to me the other day, and I realized I was actually singing it softly to myself. It was a song that used to be one of my favorites back in my single days, and [...]

To Love is to Risk

To Love is to Risk (Risk Ahead Sign on road)

Some correspondence I had with a reader last week got me to thinking about how life is really all about taking risks.  And how anything worth having usually requires risking something of ourselves.  Like love.  Especially when we’re talking about love in the truest sense of the word. Because when we put ourselves out there [...]

Run...Run for Your LIFE!

Girl_running_in_rain_on_beach

Do you really know the REAL YOU?  If someone asked you to describe the real you, would you even know what to tell them?  About who you really are?  What you’re really capable of?  Do you have any idea how amazing, how unique, how special, how incredible you really are?  I didn’t think so.  Because [...]