Is Your Past Getting in the Way of Your Future?

We think we need to be perfect, or at least somewhere close. We have so little grace for ourselves, for what we’ve been through, where we’ve come from. A beautiful woman is looking out from behind a chain link fence, symbolic of her own beliefs that are keeping her from having the relationship she wants.

I received an email the other day that really got to me. It was from a reader who felt that her past behavior with men had precluded her from having a future with a good man. My heart went out to her. It brought back to me all those times I, too, questioned my own [...]

Your Actions Say So Much More than Your Words

You deserve nothing less than someone who calls you often and with enough notice to get together. You deserve nothing less than someone who knows what he's got in you and knows what is required of him if he wants to be in a relationship with you. A beautiful confident woman looks into the camera.

You know this scenario all too well. He's not calling you as often as you'd like; he's waiting until the last minute to make plans with you; you're feeling taken for granted. You're not sure what to do to turn things around, but you don't want to lose him; you've never felt the way you [...]

It's A Journey

The reality is it's not about an overnight solution, some magic formula that makes it happen instantly. t's about a journey. A path winds through a park filled with autumn foliage.

It's been a little over a year since I created this website and began blogging here. Some of you have been on here since the beginning; some of you have just recently found me. Many of you are wondering why it hasn't happened for you yet, and how long it will take. The reality is [...]

The Missing Piece

This very important piece is like the last piece needed to complete the puzzle. A woman is holding the last piece of the puzzle.

No matter how many times you've read or been told it's ultimately about loving yourself, about being confident, about remembering all that you are and all that you have to offer, there is still that part of you that just doesn't know what to do with that. You read it, you get it, but how [...]

Is He Worth It?

Is he really worth it? A beautiful woman is crying herself to sleep over her boyfriend wondering to herself if he's really worth it.

I heard you crying yourself to sleep last night, you still haven't heard from him, but you're sure he’ll come around. Is he worth it? I heard you talking on the phone yesterday, saying he didn't come home last night, but you tell yourself he probably just had to work late again and stayed downtown [...]

What If...

What if you could know, deep down inside, that there was nothing wrong with you? A beautiful, thoughtful woman wonders why she feels there is something wrong with her.

We hear so much about what we need to do differently, what we need to change about ourselves, and what we're doing wrong, that it's no wonder we’re often left thinking that there is just something wrong with us and we'll never figure out how to find true love with that special someone. We've all [...]

Once Upon a Time There Was a Little Girl

Once upon a time there was a little girl who believed she could do anything (Photo of little girl jumping with joy)

Once upon a time you were a little girl who knew her worth couldn’t be measured; a little girl who believed in herself and her dreams, which were big dreams, and that little girl knew she could do anything and that her dreams would come true. Until they came along and told you that you [...]

Finding Your Best Self

Finding your true self finding your true love woman jumping

We hear it all the time: be your best self!  But what does that really mean?  How do we be our best selves?  We may spend a small fortune on a new wardrobe of all of the latest trendy styles, buy a membership to the best fitness club, or get a sporty new car.  But [...]

You Deserve to be Loved!

You deserve to be loved.

We all have inherent belief systems, as a result of our early programming, that greatly affect us throughout our lives into adulthood. For a variety of reasons, one of the most prevalent is that we don’t deserve to be loved, and it's this particular one that has the most negative effect on the quality of [...]

Are You Waiting to be Rescued?

Are You Waiting to be Rescued?

While it may sound romantic to be rescued by the strong, handsome man, the reality isn't at all like the fantasy. This is the fourth post in our series 8 Signs You Aren't Ready for a Relationship. We'll be delving into each of these more deeply, one by one, to make sure that you areready [...]