The Critical First Step to Finding True Love - Know Yourself

Because once you know yourself, once you figure out who you really are, what you enjoy, and what you are passionate about - then - and only then - you can begin to understand what you’re really looking for. A beautiful woman is contemplating who she really is, trying to get to know herself.

Who am I? When I look back at some of my toughest single days – the days when I really questioned whether I was ever going to get it right in the relationship department, I realize that so much of the heartbreak and fear of abandonment that I felt stemmed from not really knowing who [...]

It's Your Decision

As much as you want him to change, to commit to you, to do something different, the reality is that you are not going to change him and no amount of loving him is going to change him. A beautiful woman lies in bed wondering if her boyfriend will ever make a commitment to her.

What can you live with? Whatever he's doing or isn't doing; whatever you want him to do that he can't do. You're not going to change him. As much as you want him to change, to make a commitment to you, to do something different, the reality is that you are not going to change [...]

The Best Way to Build Confidence

There was always someone I knew who had that confidence about them and their particular relationship, just confidently being in it. A beautiful confident woman is showing her confidence by dancing in a grass field in the rain.

If it seems to you like everyone else has it all together, knowing just what to do to have a healthy relationship and making it look so easy in the process, while you're struggling along, feeling like there's something wrong with you, well, you're not alone. I used to feel that way, too. There always [...]

How To Know You're Getting Closer To A Real Relationship

You start to learn that it really does matter that you know yourself well enough to know who it is you're really looking for. Your list changes to reflect the you you're discovering and learning to embrace in love. A man and woman are holding hands near the ocean.

Don't doubt yourself on this journey. It doesn't matter where you've come from or what you've been through. It doesn't matter how many times you feel you've repeated the same mistakes or how many times you've attracted the same type of guy. None of that matters. What matters is how each experience brings you closer [...]

Should I Leave Him? 9 Questions to Ask Yourself

You've been living like this for far too long. You keep thinking things are going to get better, hanging on to those little things that just keep you hanging on. Until finally it becomes clear that things aren't getting better, he isn't coming around. A beautiful and thoughtful woman is questioning her relationship.

You've been living like this for far too long. You keep thinking things are going to get better, hanging on to those little things that just keep you hanging on. Until finally it becomes clear that things aren't getting better, he isn't coming around, you're still giving way more than you're getting out of this [...]

It's A Journey

The reality is it's not about an overnight solution, some magic formula that makes it happen instantly. t's about a journey. A path winds through a park filled with autumn foliage.

It's been a little over a year since I created this website and began blogging here. Some of you have been on here since the beginning; some of you have just recently found me. Many of you are wondering why it hasn't happened for you yet, and how long it will take. The reality is [...]

The Missing Piece

This very important piece is like the last piece needed to complete the puzzle. A woman is holding the last piece of the puzzle.

No matter how many times you've read or been told it's ultimately about loving yourself, about being confident, about remembering all that you are and all that you have to offer, there is still that part of you that just doesn't know what to do with that. You read it, you get it, but how [...]

You Don't Need to Be Chosen

You don't need to be chosen. You don't need to be picked by a guy to have worth. A man is picking a flower out of field.

I see you everywhere I go. All around me, you're everywhere. So much insecurity. So many of you deferring to these guys. Hanging on to them so tightly, literally. Like you need them. You believe you do. It’s the flawed belief system that’s in so many of you. You're not flawed; it's just the system [...]

He's Going to Fall For You

He's going to fall for you, and when he does, he'll be falling for the real you; your essence. A beautiful woman is being herself looking up and smiling.

Ladies, it's time to stop worrying about what you said or didn't say, what you did or didn't do, or any of those other regrets you have when you feel like things aren't going well. It doesn't matter. None of those things really matter. They are of no significance in the realm where the kind [...]

It's Not About Him, It's About You!

It's not about him, it's about you. A beautiful woman is lying on the grass.

We've all been there, asking ourselves and everyone who's still listening to us …Why is he doing this? Why is he behaving like that? Why is he treating me this way? What is he looking for? What does he want? But what would happen if we could change this around to be about you instead [...]