Finding Love

The posts in the Finding Love category relate to bringing love into your life, whether you are currently single, dating, or in a relationship. This category includes topics such as finding yourself, knowing what you want, living your life, etc.

The Critical First Step to Finding True Love - Know Yourself

Because once you know yourself, once you figure out who you really are, what you enjoy, and what you are passionate about - then - and only then - you can begin to understand what you’re really looking for. A beautiful woman is contemplating who she really is, trying to get to know herself.

Who am I? When I look back at some of my toughest single days – the days when I really questioned whether I was ever going to get it right in the relationship department, I realize that so much of the heartbreak and fear of abandonment that I felt stemmed from not really knowing who [...]

Make Him Prove That He's Worthy Of You

Only give your heart away to a man who proves himself worthy of that beautiful love you offer. A man is kissing a beautiful woman hoping he can prove that he is worthy of her love.

We've gotten so used to making this about everything except love that we don't even know how to get back to where we need to be. Somewhere along the way we unfortunately learned to believe that we need to prove something. That we need to show him, or maybe everyone, that we really do have [...]

Why You Need to Stop Trying So Hard

Every thing you do or say isn’t being recorded, judged, analyzed to determine just how worthy you are to receive the grand prize of true love. A beautiful woman writes the word relax on a transparent board in marker while teaching.

This is NOT how it's supposed to feel. It’s not supposed to be this hard. Really, it’s not. All the things you’re doing to increase your chances of finding him - The One, Mr. Right. All the over thinking. The second-guessing. The desperate calls to your best girlfriends, maybe even your mother. Should I or shouldn’t I? Do [...]

Help! My Biological Clock is Ticking Away!

A woman who is concerned that her biological clock is ticking away and she hasn't yet found her Mr. Right is holding a biological clock near her belly.

Here's a letter from one of our beautiful readers, Mady, who is concerned that her biological clock is ticking away and she hasn't yet found her Mr. Right.  Dear Jane, First of all, thank you for writing such encouraging thoughts on your very positive website. You’re helping a lot of people, something I strive to [...]

I'm Confident and Adventurous – Why Can't I Find Love?

How does a woman in my position keep from feeling there will actually be no one out there for her? A beautiful confident woman leans against a tree in a park.

One of our confident, beautiful readers, Ashley, wrote in asking for some advice on what she can do to find love. Since this is a question so many of us can relate to, I wanted to share her question and my response. Hi Jane, Thank you for offering to answer questions! I am a confident woman [...]

How I Knew My Husband Was Marriage Material

It turns out all of these superficial things don't matter one bit as far as love is concerned. A bride and groom walk hand-in-hand after their wedding.

Here's an article I wrote for YourTango.com this week: In the early years of my dating life, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted, and I was absolutely sure I was going to get it: a charming, great looking, well-built guy who dressed well, made plenty of money and drove me around to nice [...]

It's Time To Celebrate YOU!

Loving yourself and recognizing all of the wonderful, valuable, and lovable qualities that make you the beautiful person that you are is the first step to having the kind of love in your life that you've been longing for. A beautiful woman is celebrating herself by giving herself a bouquet of flowers.

You're pretty great, no matter what you think about yourself. How do I know? Because everyone is pretty great. We all have our own unique qualities that make us special, interesting, valuable and lovable. It's time to start celebrating those unique qualities that make you you. It's in the noticing and celebrating of our own special [...]

You Are Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be

The way our lives have worked out, and the route our journeys have taken on the road to finding ourselves and the love in our lives, is all part of the life that we are meant to live and are living now. A beautiful woman is embracing her life with arms outstretched in a field of red flowers.

One of the most difficult and frustrating parts of my journey was always the fact that no matter how much I worked on certain areas of my life, there were some things that I just couldn't seem to change no matter how much I tried. Namely, it was how personally I took everything, how deeply [...]

Bring Love Into Your Life With This One Simple Habit

Once you make a habit of noticing all of the little things there are to be grateful for your entire life will change for the better. A beautiful woman is lying in the grass looking at a dandelion thinking of everything she has to be grateful for.

I've been having a tough day. My son is three days into his second bout of flu this season, just a few days after his little sister finally got over the same flu. He kept me up most of the night, I'm tired, the house is a disaster and I now can't even see the [...]

It's Time to Raise the Bar!

We just keep lowering the bar on what we'll settle for, and in the process we teach him how little we will require from him if he'll only choose us. A beautiful woman is lifting a barbel on her shoulders.

Don't ever doubt that you teach him how to treat you. That each of us teaches each and every man out there how to treat us and every other woman who comes after us. When you're wondering how he can ask for your number and then never call. When you're wondering how he can text you at [...]