We all know her.
She’s the one who can be herself so effortlessly. The one who says and does what she wants so unapologetically. The one who always seems to get what she wants.
She’s the one we’re secretly so jealous of. She moves about a room with ease, she’s never without a date, and unlike you, she’s not worried about who is or isn’t calling or texting or overthinking everything trying to figure out what her next move should be.
She was to me, too.
If only I was more like her, you think. If only I could do relationships and dating as easily as she seems to.
Well, I’ve got news for you, Beautiful. There’s only one thing she’s got going on that you don’t.
She knows her own power.
That’s the only thing she’s got that you don’t. And lest you think there’s some defect in you that you’re never going to have the kind of power, I’ve got news for you.
You’ve had it all along. You may not remember ever having it. You might not have ever felt you had a right to use it. But oh baby, it’s been there all along. Waiting for you to remember it. Waiting for you to find it. Waiting for you to use it!
We’ve got to help you get your own power back! We’ve got to get you seeing the world through eyes of confidence, through eyes that know your worth, that know that you’re the prize, that you deserve all the love in the world!
This is why she’s not the one I’m talking to here, I’m talking to you. She doesn’t need this. Whether she was brought up with people in her life who set her up to know that there was nothing she couldn’t do or be if she wanted it badly enough, or whether she worked hard at overcoming whatever initial setbacks she went through to become the woman you’re seeing now, it doesn’t matter.
There’s nothing she’s got that you can’t have to!
All those questions you’re struggling with – Should I call? Should I respond to his text or wait a little longer? Should I play hard to get? Should I accept just being friends? Should I let him know I’m interested? Should I have THE talk? Should I stay or should I go? I promise you, every single one of the answers to your questions is going to become crystal clear when you have one thing down – your power.
It’s why you need to get this part. It’s why this is the part you need to focus on above anything else you think this is about.
It only requires one thing of you; to be the gatekeeper of your own heart.
Nothing comes in that you don’t choose to allow in. Everything that gets by, every person, every behavior, every action, every single thing that you let in is because you choose to let it in. It’s a new role for you. It’s the only one that gives you your power back and sets you free to trust yourself.
You become the gatekeeper of your beautiful, precious heart.
When you give like you do, when you love like you do, nothing less than someone watching out for you will do. And no one can do this quite like you.
You know what you deserve, even if you’ve been accepting less for far too long to remember what that’s like. You know!
It’s how you find your power. By choosing. By speaking up. By making choices that celebrate you. By making every last thing that comes into your life every single day, a choice. Your choice.
How can you feel your power if you don’t feel like you have a choice at all? Make everything a conscious choice. It has to become a habit. Start small, and you’ll go big. Start with the easy ones, and the difficult ones won’t seem so hard.
Stop looking at what anyone else has. Start looking at yourself as the gatekeeper to your heart. Does it serve you? Does it honor you? Is it loving, is it compassionate, is it forgiving? If it’s not, it doesn’t get in.
If he isn’t, he doesn’t get in.
This is the process. Choosing. What gets in. What stays out. What never, ever, EVER gets a chance to hurt you again.
You choose, Beautiful.
Not him. Not her. Not them.
Only you. Beautiful, confident, radiant you!
I want to hear from you. I know this message resonates with so many of you. Let me hear you say it. I choose. And then tell me in the comments what’s never EVER getting past you again!