Our friend BeeZee has been in a rocky relationship for 7 years, and is still waiting for him to make a real commitment and put a ring on her finger. She's wondering what she should do at this point.
Here's her story:
I'm 28 years old and have only been in 1 relationship, ever. It's been a rocky 7 years but we're still together, and I can't see my life without him. And I know he would feel the same way about me...
To make a longgggg story short, we have great days and then some not-so-good days. I mean when we "fight", we really fight.
No fight is ever really resolved or handled maturely. It usually ends in him name calling, putting me down or breaking something in my room. And me, of course, crying then having no appetite (and I'm a big foodie). Then we usually don't talk for a few days (even weeks on some occasions ).
He has never lifted a hand on me, nor will he. Obviously the lack of communication is a BIG problem in our relationship, but so is the way that he "handles" things.
Anyway, back to us being together for 7 years... I'm been ready to settle down with him, even with all of the problems that have been swept under the rug. But it's not reciprocated. Yes, we spend every minute and night together, but I can't get him to commit.
I've literally begged for him to move in with me (officially) and it usually ends in me crying again and him getting angry (story of our lives). It seems like a sensitive subject for him, unfortunately...
I've asked him so many times for us to have a 1-on-1 serious conversation about our future together (if there is one), getting married and starting a family ONE day (not overnight or tomorrow). But he won't open up. Instead he chooses to turn the tables and bring up my past (yes, I've made mistakes - but then again - so has everyone). Continue Reading